Breaking Up: The Nice Way
Probably the only thing worse than being dumped is being the person about to do the dumping. If you’re the one breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, there’s the guilt, the indecision, AND you have to figure out when, where, and how to pull the trigger. A question I hear all the time is: “What’s a nice way to break up with someone?”
Honestly, the majority of the time break ups aren’t nice, and I’m not going to lie to you and say there’s something you can do to make everything go really smoothly. That being said, there is a lot that you can do to make your break up fair. And at the end of the day, that’s all anyone can ask for. If you are thinking of getting out of a relationship, keep these things in mind:
- It’s Worse to Stay With Someone You Don’t Like. On the outside it may seem like you’re doing the “nice” thing by staying with someone you’re just not that into. But really, that’s one of the worst things you can do. Some advice my dad gave me recently: “everyone deserves to be with someone they adore, and to be adored by the someone they’re with.” You deserve to find someone you really like, but more than that, the guy or girl you’re with deserves to be with someone who really likes them. And if that’s not you, you’re not doing them any favors by sticking around.
- Don’t make your partner do your dirty work. I remember my first few boyfriends were big fans of this move: “I’ll just be a jerk, so she’ll dump me.” And you guessed it, that move was super lame. Although tempting, it’s not fair to just stop calling someone, make excuses to not see someone, or just generally be rude or standoffish because you aren’t happy in your relationship. Don’t try to make yourself so hard to deal with that your partner has to dump you. If you want to end a relationship, grow a pair and do it yourself.
- When you do it, be honest (ish). Anyone you’ve been dating deserves a certain amount of truth about why you’re breaking up with them. This is not to say that you can’t sugarcoat it a little bit (you don’t always have to be brutally honest), but don’t feel like you have to fall back on excuses like “I just want to spend more time with my friends” if the real reason is “I just don’t feel the same way about you that I used to.”
- Initially your ex may hate you, but that’s okay. Be prepared for the fact that initially your ex may be upset and not want to talk to you. That’s okay, and that’s totally normal. If they need space, give them space. If you give them time to be mad at you, get over you, and heal, it’s WAY more likely that you’ll have a chance of being friends with them in the long run.
- I promise, eventually you’ll be fine. When you end a relationship, even if you’re the one who wanted to end it, it can feel like a giant sinking hole in your stomach mixed with the worse barf flu you’ve ever had. But even though at the time it feels like you’ll never feel whole again, you will. Trust me. As someone who has been through many a break up, it does get better—cliché as it sounds, it just takes time.
Most of all though, don’t feel guilty. People get into relationships knowing that they might end. The possibility that things won’t work out is clear from the very beginning, so when you start dating, they know what they’re signing up for. So don’t feel bad about having to break up with someone. Feel bad about going about it the wrong way. Being fair and honest with your partner, and doing your best to give them whatever closure they need, is all anyone can ask for out of a break up.
Amber Madison has been writing about sex, love, and relationships since college (she went to Tufts University) when she wrote for her school newspaper's sex ed column. Since graduating, she's published two books: Hooking Up: A Girl's All-Out Guide to Sex and Sexuality and Talking Sex With Your Kids and has been quoted in a ton of different media outlets from Seventeen magazine to MTV to NPR. Have a question for Amber? Send us an email!
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I've been dating this guy on and off for about 2 years, and i really love him, but he lives more than 3 states away from me, and i dont have the time or money to go see him. I like another guy where i live, and id really like to go out with him since he's told me he likes me, but im scared to break up with my boyfriend. Its not that i dont love him, its just so hard being so far away from him, and i wanna date someone who lives near me. i would love some advice on what to do :)
I don't think I'm in a healthy relationship. For one thing, he's sometimes mean to me. Not abusively but I don't know how to explain it. He can just be a real jerk sometime. But what's keeping me here is that we also have so many good times together & I guess the only time he's a jerk is when I'm mad to, but sometimes not. So I don't know what to do. Should I talk to him about it before I break up with him? I mean he's not treating me like he use to for the first few months we started dating. Lately it's like he's just not putting effort into the relationship anymore. Bottom line: We have so much fun & he does treat me well sometimes, but other times we might be a jerk and I hate it! Should I talk to him? Or should I just dump him?
A girl said she loved me but only 3 months later, she said she was lieing and she just wants to be friends. What do I Do??
What if he told you thag he broke up with you beacuse he didnt like youu anymore is that an excuse??
i am still in a relationship but dating anonther guy.... i dont what to do . i love this guy i have been dating for amost 1 month
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 weeks....Ever since we started dating I've felt really awkward and weird. I don't know what to do. My friends keep telling me to tell him how I feel. I've tried but he keeps on nuzzling his face into my neck. And on the day he has asked me out, he already said I LOVE YOU......I'm that type of person who thinks those three words are VERY strong. I just don't feel the same about him. And the worst part is he's sensitive. I don't know what to do......HELP!!! :c
im dating this guy and he's realy sweet but i dont think its working out he's my first boyfriend and i dont know how to tell him he's my first break up and first kiss but e've been together for 4 months and a half and most teens at my schoool only stay in realationships for llike a week or two. But ive stayed with him even though i dont think its not working oout i i mean hes too nice and sweet but he dosent talk and thats the big point,but staying with him is hurting me just by trying how to break it to him gently.....At night i sometimes cry thinking abou this ... HELP!!!!
I have been dating this girl i am with for 6 months today but all she wants is sex and i don't want to do that i think its best that i break up with her but i dont want to be a jerk about it i want to be honest and not deceitful if anyone could help me i'd be much obliged
I am currently dating this guy, and we've been together for a year and four months. When i first got with him, i thought he was everything, like 5 months into the relationship he started "being himself". He doesn't trust me at all. I had to delete all the guys numbers out of my phone because i can only have girl friends. I calls me a b**** all the time, constantly cussing at me over crazy things and he calls me stupid all the time. If I'm in the shower or something and he calls me and i don't answer he gets all mad at me. I accidently let his dog out of the pin one day and he said "God Chelsey could you be more stupid"! It hurt bad :/ He is constantly accusing me of cheating on him and i know with everything in me i would never do anything like that. I love him so much but i'm so confused. Everytime we fight he threatens to tell my mom "weve messed around" it's like he's trying to scare me so i won't breakup with him. He gets mad at me when i don't want to have sex, and i wonder sometimes if that's the reason he's with me, but he probably wouldn't be with me that long if that was true. Everytime we do have our little breakups he threatens to kill himself :/ i don't want that to happen. I just need some help, i'm very depressed and don't know what to do. Someone please let me know what to do.
Theres this guy that ive been dating and hes really nice and all but i just cant handle things anymore . Hes the sensative kind and the worst part is that hes my godbrothers cousin and bestfriend . If i breakup with him then they will all be dissapointed in me . I dont like breaking up with guys bcuz i feel like im hurting myself more than hes hurting . The only choice i cood think of is to ignore him until he dumps me . Pleease help !!
i think is true no body should be in a abuse relationship and if we teenagers think we're ready to habdle a relationship then we should be ready to follow all the rules of relationship so that we dont be the once getting hury or even hurting people,,,most people just date because their friends or sisters or even people around them are dating and they feel lonely, but i dont think is a good reason to get our self messed up with stupid boys who dont care bout our feelings but just wanna get in out pants and leave cause that what most boys do these day.(talking from experience) is true that we should when to date and who to date. haveing a boyfriend or girlfriend just make life more harder then we think but most people dont know it.
It's kinda funny that I came across this completely by accident, but it totally fits what's going on in my life right now. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months, but I knew probably about 3 months into it that things just didn't feel right. I thought maybe it was because I started working and that I was just adjusting to how things had changed. But I still feel the same way, if not worse, and I've definitely gotten accustomed to working. For awhile, I was still harboring feelings for my ex boyfriend, but nothing ever came out of that. I have a lot of guy friends, and my current boyfriend always seems to get uncomfortable about me talking to them or hanging out with them. I assure him I'll never do anything behind his back and all of my guy friends try to be friends with my boyfriend. Yet he still has this insecurity and I'm not sure why. I know some jealousy in a relationship is normal, but I feel like this is too much. Recently I've started to have feelings for someone I worked with. He just left to find a job closer to where he's living, but he still isn't far from me and we talk. We both admitted that we have feelings for each other, but not much has happened since then. I'm not sure where everything is going to go. Regardless of if I end up with the guy from work or not, I know I want to break up with my boyfriend. I actually made the attempt the other night but I ended up feeling horrible and fell back on what I was trying to say. He is set on "always and forever" but I don't want that...I guess my biggest worry is the guilt I'm going to feel and his reaction. But I have to be straightfoward and just tell him that I want to break up. It's not going to be easy, but as I've written this I realize it is how I actually feel. And it might just help me get through this.
I have been dating this guy i met when i started a new school. We hit it off from the start and i fell in love instantly. We have been going out 9 months now. i havn't seen him since school ended in July and it's been hard on us both. We still call each other multiple times a day and text 24/7. we say we are still in love. i am still in love with him but we are so young. we are only freshman's in high school. i want to marry this guy i feel like hes the one. he says he wants to marry me too and that i am his one and only. but of course it is always in the back of my mind, that he could be lying. we have a very trusting relationship, although we have been through rough times. we will never be able to see each other until he can drive or i find someone to drive me to him. its hard but we make it work. it is very painful i cry every night. Reading this make me realize, even though we are in love...maybe breaking up is the answer. we laugh more than we fight. but it's a constant fight to laugh. I think it's times to break up
I can honestly say that I feel terrible for breaking up with my ex . I mean , I really and truly had feeling for this kidd . He was great .. athletic , smart , kind , cute , and - I know this sounds cheesy - but he was different . Or so I thought . I broke up with him because I didn't think he cared anymore about us and that he didn't feel the same way anymore . But I'm beginning to feel like that was a stupid thing to do , because I never really asked him what was going on ... I haven't talked to him since and there's a part of me that misses him dearly . I want to get back together with him , but then I don't . School starts soon and I know it's going to be awkward and weird . I just need to know that it might just get easier .
okay so i went out with a guy that I'll call "sam". the relationship was good and all just because ive had a crush on him since 5th grade. we lasted a little bit over a month then i broke up with him because I didn't feel the same. So about 3 months later, I meet a guy named Jose. He was what everyone called a player. When really he was the one that was being played. One day he asks me out and I said yes right away. We were really good and then within about the 5th or 6th month some of my good friends are telling me how he's telling them that we broke up and how he likes them and not me. I confronted him about and we broke up. I was really heartbroken because he was my first kiss. But we got back together because he told me the entire story on how she was lying and he was innocent and all that. Well we are still dating till this day but I'm kinda "iffy" about it. Sometimes when i talk to "sam" I still have feelings just because i've known him longer and he knows how to cheer me up. But sometimes I think about my best friend Josh. He's good friends with my older sister. At my sisters party we were dancing together almost all night. Later my friends were telling me that it looked like I had a thing for Josh. I was telling them that they were being ridiculous. But then i thought about it... I started to have feelings for Josh. I don't even know why I'm with Jose anymore. I have no idea if I'm happy or not. Sometimes I think I'm only with him just because of the kissing. Well nopw I don't know what to do. Should I leave Jose? Should I go for Josh? "Sam"? I have no idea on what to do. Please Help!
I dated my ex for almost 3 months. Everything went well the 1st month, the 2nd month everything was good(with everything i knew). We broke up 3 days ago because he confessed he cheated on me with 3 other girls. He had been getting high and everything and I was ready to end it but I didn't want to make him mad, but after he told me that, it was quits for us. I still think about it, and that I had to have done something wrong in our relationship or he wouldn't have cheated.
I was with my bf for about 10 months before i finaly got the guts to end it. For about the first month of our relationship everything was fine, we got along, we would talk for hours, and we would spend every momnt we could together. Well around wo months after we got together he gave me a promise ring. i was so excited, i thought he truey loved me. Right after that he started acting funny, he was distant he didnt want to talk as much he always wanted to b with hs friends never wanted to be aroud me. Then all of a sudden he started getting like really possesive, he wouldnt let me hang out with friends, i couldnt wear certain stuff, i always had to look a certain way. Then about five months after we started dating he cheated on me. He came to me crying beggng for another chance and i gave it to him. then a month after that he cheated on me again and came to me crying saying he was sorry and that he regreted it i gave it too him again. Another month passed and the same thing happened again and i gave him another chance. then about three weeks after that he broke up with me because he needed to think,a week after that we got back togther. But i couldnt get my self to feel the same way about him anymore. we started arguing constantly. Then my mom told me i couldnt see him anymore. about a week after she did this i broke up with him.
About 2 hours after i broke up with him i started dating a guy i have known for my entire life. And ever since i got with him i have felt relieved becuase I'm not being controled anymore. And my new boyfriend is really sweet and supportive. But now my ex is mad at me saying i broke up with him for my new bf when really i broke up with him because i didnt feel the same way anymore. So i know that now all break ups end well but some do have better out comes than others do
ok so its a long story...about a year ago i fell in love with this guy named Ryan..we were together for about 8 months..he broke up with me 5 days before my b15th birthday...well about 4 or 5 months later i started to date his best friend Tristan and i fell head over heels for him i thought we were going to be together for foreve well we dated off and on for about 8 months...and over spring break i got mad at him and his best friend Roger for something and well Tristan tried to get me to like Roger and be ok with him so me and Roger started to talk and well i did become ok with him and we were good friend i guess you can call it and then one day Tristan broke up with me he didnt really have a reason why but we didnt talk for a while and i was still talking to Roger and we ended up liking each other and dated for like a week but i broke up with him cause i started to fall out of olove with Tristan and i got scared...and well a few weeks later i realized that i really like Roger so Roger gave me another chance and we went to the movies and had a WONDERFUL time and we kissed.(and Roger fell in love with me)..and well me and tristan started to talk again and all the feelings i had for him came rushing back like we never skipped a beat...and i thought i wanted to be with Tristan so i broke up with Roger once again and i got bacj with Tristan and he came to my birthday party(: er had fun but i didnt get the same feeling i use to have with him and i ignored it..i thought might the feeling will come back but it hasnt its been a month and well my grandpa went into the hospital and i was upset and needed someone to talk to and he wasnt there for me but Roger was...and he still isnt here for me to talk to and i wanna break up with him to be with his best friend Roger and i dont know who to tell him when i do get to talk to him...Roger treats me right and he is everything i look for in a guy...
Breaking up with someone is alot easier said then done. I started dating my boyfriend 4 years ago (I was 15 he was 17). We were on and off for the first year. After dating for a year he proposed to me. Everything was amazing, then I fell pregnant a few months after turning 17. We were still not married. Anyways during my pregnancy we were still great. But when our daughter was around 2 months old he started going out more, drinking more, and was lying to me about being at work when really he was with his friends. So we broke up after a HUGE fight. 2 weeks later we were back together and he was completly different. He stopped hanging out with his friends as much, he helped A LOT with our daughter and it was all good. But about 1-2 months ago it started getting bad again. He was accused of stealing pain pills from my brother, but it was actually my boyfriends friend and it caused drama within my family. He now doesnt even like being near my family, has to keep himself from freaking out on my brother, he doesn't live us so me and him never see eachother anymore we never talk anymore and I feel as though I fell out of love with him.
I know I SHOULD break up with him, but I can't bring myself to do it because I want us to be a family. But I just don't love him anymore.
I am also afriad to leave him because if I do he is going to go back to his old ways (drinking, drugs, jail) and I don't want that for him. Also I don't want him to have unsupervised visits with our daughter.
ADVICE FOR EVERYONE: USE PROTECTION, no matter how much you think you love some one and how you guys will be together forever, something can always happen. Having a baby is VERY stressful on a relationship. If you would have asked me if I thought we would be together forever a year ago I would have said YES YES YES, but ask me now and I would say "We arent lasting."
I wish I could get the balls to end it.
I had been talking to this girl for about 2 months now and just a few weeks ago we decided to make it official! I was totally exicted i couldnt believe that she asked me out, But as time went on we started having doubts about one another, i felt as if she was cheating on me and all the sighns just seemed there,so i though i had accused her of cheating and she didnt and because of that we faded apart because of my trust issues! Being without her is one of the hardest things i've dealt with so far and im only 14,but i know i have alot more obstacles in my life that will be hard as well !
i dated this guy i liked but i didnt have the guts 2 ask him out so i had my friend witch is his ex ask him out 4 me and we dated for like a month and he was my first real bf but when we were still in school he would deny tht we were going out. And then he broke up with me for saying and i qoute "WOW" and i asked him if their was a chance if i changed would we get back together and he said maybe and then my friend asked him the same question and he said and i qoute "NO".
well, i went ot with my BF for 8 weeks, and then he started ignoring me. i could tell he really wanted to be with me, and he said he sill really cared about me, but for some reason he said we had to break up. i was heartbroken, because it was my first real relationship. i cant help thinking he wanted to break up because he thought i still had feelings for a guy i used to liked. the break up just seemed so sudden. its been about a month now, and i still think about him a lot. its just been so hard to get over him, and keep thinking we might get back together, but now i ask myself, would i truely be happy? i am starting high school in a couple months, so maybe i will meet a new guy, and officially get over my ex. in summary: breakups are hard, especialy your first breakup and getting over a guy is better said than done. i know i cant tell the future, so i will just have to wait and see what happens.
breaking up with someone can be really hard! But of course you can still stay friends or acquantinces.......its totally up to youu.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I just looked at this site, and now i feel like maybe it is time for us to come to an end, he's possessive, and controling, and i don't know how to leave him when he's always been there, but always been the bad guy. I talk to my friends, he gets mad. I talk to his older brother, he gets really mad. He makes me feel like i'm losing my mind with how much he does wrong to me. I rub his back, pay for gas, take care of his niece, everything he won't do, which is everything. But how could i leave him... He always threatens to murder himself. :/
My boyfriend and I have broken up a few times (or I broken up with him), once around 6 months then again around 10 months. We've been together for 11 months, so we've recently got back together. Every time I broke up with him, he made me feel guilty and we kind of broke the "give each other space" rule and we still hung out like everything was ok. Even though it was super awkward.
I just wanted to say, love basically gives everyone hope(lol @ the website reference), as cliche as that sounds. Everyone wants that happy ending and if you feel like you really love that person, fight for them. Show them that you really care. If you're together for 5+ months, there has to be feeling there, just remind them why they were with you in the first place. There's nothing wrong with getting back together. But don't be with someone who doesn't respect you or you don't respect them.
ANYWAY: TooLongDidn'tRead: Love is worth fighting for.
I hope this has helped someone.
its this guy who i dated when i was younger(about 10) until i moved away and our "young relationship" end me and the guy ended up reuniting and getting back together and everything was perfect in the beginning but then i begin 2 realized that he had changed alot since we were younger but i was already attached by that time...me and him had sex further along in our relationship and after that alot of things begin to go down hill...we ecentually broke up but were still continuing to have sex because i couldnt let him go but i believe he only was using me for sex... he talks to so many other girls and that sttill hurts me til this day and i am currently in the process of moving on from him..i made a promise to myself that i will NEVER HAVE SEX WITH HIM AGAIN
I was dating this older guy for about a year but it was on and off. We had a long distance relationship and I would talk to his friends and all they would tell me was that he was cheating but my ex denied it. I didn't know who to believe. So now its always when ever hes single he comes after me because he knows that I will always go back to him. Right now I don't know what to do. Please help me
Ok so my ex and I started dating in November 2009.At the time,I was 16 and he was 14.I'm really shy and it takes me a long time to get comfortable around someone,even though we had known each other since I was 12.He broke up with me after a week.Well.I talked to him and we ended up back together the next day.We dated for like a month and then had an argument because he thought my sister needed to stay out of our relationship.When I told my sister that,she and my mom got mad at me.So I stood up for my sister against him and we ended up breaking up.We got back together a month or so after that.Then I quit going to school.I was going through a hard time and just didn't go to school.He was really worried about me and upset because he never got to see me anymore.So he broke up with me AGAIN.I was really hurt and spent the whole summer being miserable.When school started again(I went back to school after almost quitting),I decided that we could just be friends.Maybe go back to the way it was before we ever dated.Yeah,well, that didn't happen.We both fell for each other again.My friend and sister talked him into asking me out again.I knew that I shouldn't say yes,but I really wanted to because I liked him so much.So I told him I needed to think about it.I thought about it for 3 days and finally decided to give him another chance.We got back together and it was so great in the beginning.We were the couple that never fought and he couldn't get enough of me.Then we started fighting.I love Justin Bieber and he was jealous.We stayed together though and I thought things were going to be okay.By this time,I was almost 18 and he was almost 16.We had both said that we wanted to stay together forever and get married someday.We both thought we were in love with the other.We got in trouble at school for kissing because holding hands was all that was allowed.This happened several times.I'm a "good girl" who hates to get in trouble.He tries too hard to be a "bad boy" who doesn't care if he gets in trouble.He got mad because I wouldn't kiss him at school anymore.We still stayed together,though.Then one night,he told me that he didn't think we were meant to together.He didn't break up with me,but I was assumed it was over.The next morning at school,I pretty much ignored him.Then he asked me to come here and he told me that he was sorry and didn't mean it.So we stayed together.It was pretty much the beginning of the end and I think we both knew it.I knew it was just a matter of time before he broke up with me.He told me a few weeks later that he wanted to take a break.That was fine with me.I was willing to give him some space if it meant I wouldn't lose him again.The break lasted about 2 days.Then he said that he wanted our break to be over and he loved me and wanted to be with me.Things were never the same after that.3 weeks before my 18th birthday,he ended our relationship.I was absolutely heartbroken.He thought I would quit school again,but I didn't.Not then anyway.Some frends even told me that on a day I was absent fom school he had said that he wanted to break up with me,but knew that I would quit school again.This time when we broke up,my heart was absolutely shattered.We went to the mall together with some friends and went to the movies.I wanted to sit by him during the movie.Bad move.I ended up crying through half of the movie.He has told my sister that he still loves me and wants to wait until he graduates to date me.That's 3 years from now.We flirt with each other and I love every minute of it.He was my first boyfriend.I can't imagine being with anyone else.I know that I should move on,but it seems impossible.After being with each on and off for 1 year and 4 months and dating continually for 6 months the last time we got together,it's hard to let go.It's been almost 3 months since we broke up and the pain is still there.To be honest,it hasn't gotten better with time.He told my sister that he's not going to date another girl and hopes that I don't get another boyfriend.He "dated" other girls(over the internet)after we broke up the third time.I didn't.He's still the only guy I've dated.I miss him and every time I see him,I fall for him all over again.I love him and miss him so much it hurts.
ok so there's this guy and we went out for 5 months. then he broke up with me, and then after a month, he asks me out again. and of course i said yes, because i really love him, and definitely he's the one boy i would take no matter what. So we lasted two months.. and he broke up with me.. again. And i still have those feelings for him. But he never really explained why he broke up with me. But sometimes i think that there's always a reason why things happen. But in the other hand i want him back. But guess he doesn't really love me as much as he said he did. All i want is for him to be happy. Wether it be with me or without me.. i just want him to be happy.
Ohhkayy i need some help! sooo theres this guy that ive been seeing on and off for about a year now and i think im in love with him.... but hes always screwing me over like he rlly sweet wen its just me and him but if someone else is around he gets rlly mean and wen we are dating im always getting told that hes cheating on me with like numerous girls but he always denies it so i believe him... all of my friends have been telling me that i need to just end everything stop being his friend stop dating stop having any kind of contact with him... but im just not sure what i should do... i know its not healthy but i dont want to stay away from him... ever....
so theres this guy i met a week after me and my bf broke up.. he seemed to make everything better and happy again.. well that was 4 months ago and he was perfect the first month but then he started ignoring me and one night he called me and was yelling at me for no reason.. he had me crying... after that things went down hill.. he kept ignoring me but didnt want me with other guys or doing anything around other guys.. and i was okay with that cuz i really liked him.. well about a month ago we called it off but recently hes been texting me alot and i really wanna get back together but the thing is we never saw each other.. we hung out 3 times in 4 months and i really still really like him and i dont wanna give up on him.. ive tried b4 and i cant.. i need help majorly!! i just wanna be happy with him and everything else go away.. how can i do that and have it all work out??
uhmm i am in a relationship and i really like the guy i am dating..but he happens to be younger than me, he's also my juniour at high school that means i will soon be leaving him behind i dont know what to do either break up with him..coz i have never tried long distance and i don't want to loose him..i need help..any one any advice would do....but on the other hand,their's an older gut who likes me and wants to have sex and i am not use to rejecting people..arghh i really dont know what to do..
What do you do when your ex wont leave you alone? It's been 3 weeks since I brone up with him and he keeps on texting me saying he wants to talk to me but never comes up to me to talk, even when I'm all alone, texts me his feelings because he believes he has no friends and his mom doesn't care and doesn't want to know about his feelings. Which is a lie. His mom was always asking me what is up wig him because he won't talk to his mom. he cried in front of me practically everyother day for a week andstalks my Facebook page. Called me, 5 minutes, after I blocked him. He just simply won't leave me alone.
A guy that likes me wants to have sex with me and i have a boyfriend and i like him alot but i kinda like the other guy but i dont wana be with the other guy cuz i dont wna have sex
This guy that likes me he wants to have sex with me, but i have a boyfriend but i kinda like the other guy...HELP!
This guy whos name I cant say likes me and i like him what do i do because im too shy to ask him out and hes too shy to ask me out. Please help! =|
@ ANONYMOUSE:
If you both like each other...and you KNOW you like each other...what's to be nervous about? Be bold and just ask him out! Wait for a time that he's not surrounded by people and just go for it. If you both like each other, you shouldn't need to feel shy.
But if that seems way too much to handle, you can also enlist a friend to ask on your behalf. Choose someone you trust who won't end up embarrassing you in the end.
Good luck! If you have any more questions, you can email us directly at admin@stayteen.org!
The number one thing to me in a relationship is TRUST!
i think a guy or a girl should be honest and if u dont like them anymore tell them u dont fill the same about them as they do u. and u just want 2 be friends for now :)
I wouldnt kno because i never had a boyfriend because i feel like wastin ur tyme on a boy is ridiculous i think that ur education should ocme first and then maybe boys can come next
My first boyfriend was someone, and still is, who never knows what they want. I was unsure of why he first broke up with me, but like 6 months later, he had asked me back out AGAIN. But, we broke up with me the next day saying the only reason he asked me out was "Because there was no one else to ask" even though he claimed he still liked me. Then later in that month he asks me to go to the homecoming dance with him AGAIN, but I denied this time. I told him he needs to figure this stuff out. I still kind of like him to this day and while it seems he likes me too, I want him to grow up a bit and think more before I try to be anything more than friend with him. Relationships never work if your partner doesn't even know what they want.
@KAYLA + GUY + OTHER GUY = CONFUSION!
Honestly, if you don't love him leave him. Don' led him on when you dont really have feelings for him. If you like the other guy you like him, just dont do it while you dating someone. Think about how your partner feels if he knew you like someone.
in the end where it says you shouldn't feel guitly. I totally agree. Its what you heart wants and what satisfy your needs.
I NEED SERIOUS HELP!!!! I've been dating my BF for almost 3 months (he's my 1st BF) & Im not happy! He's deeply in love with me, but I dont feel the same way about him anymore. Im in love with another guy, & I think this other guy is THE ONE!, but he's already told me I'm not his type (we r best friends)! I'm soo upset about this, & I dont know what to do! & now my BF wants to kiss me, & he's taking me to my semi-formal dance @ school this month & we r guna slow dance together. I think I should break up with him, but what if its the wrong choice, & after I break up with him I realize that I shouldnt of done that cuz I still mite love him! ANYONE GOT ANY ADVICE??? :''''(
Well right now i'm dating this guy that i don't like at all
the reason i'm going out with him is because he thinks i'm
cute and really likes me and also because my friends would tell
me to give him a chance so i did we have been dating for a week and
i don't feel comfortable with him. Well this Monday my ex boyfriend is coming
back and i still like him allot and i'm afraid if i see him i'm gonna fall for him again
and unfortunately cheat on my boyfriend so what do i do i really need help this is just so difficult for me.
My Boyfriend Was too Clingy . So I Broke Up With him . And It Was Really Hard . But My BEST FRIEND Dated Him , And it made me Angry So I Called Her Horrible Names , But Its Stress To Begin With . So I Told Her Everything Thats Going on in my life And She Is Going to tell me in 3 months if we are okay . But Still I Think I Shouldve Left Her Cause She Dated My Ex. But Its Okay . If She really Likes Him , Ill Let Them be.
i would not hurt there feeling if they hurt mine.
This is EXACTLY how i felt about my ex.
We go to school together.
&& he told me he 're-likes' me.
But all he wantss is his bootyshake & i think that's all he'll? ever want.
It dissapoints me to say i still love his ol' a--.
but everytime i try to avoid him, he finds me.
& i keep falling more deep & deeper, for his words.
His smile always brightens up my day..
& if he isn't there, there's no reason to smile at all.
iknow i have to move on sooner are later but i just cant
but thinking back to those times when he threated like
he didnt even gave a fudge really makes me realize how big
of a jerk and he is he doesnt deserve me [; guys are so dumb
now a days.
I think true. it sound hard to tell them
So when i broke up with my boyfriend it was horrible. when we were dating he threatened suicide everytime something wouldnt work out. its what made me want to leave him to begin with. and when i finally did he pulled out a 9mm and said any blood shed was my fault because i caused it. i didnt know what to do and i felt like i should just die. then he blew up my phone calling me a c*nt and a cold hearted b!tch. he then blocked every way of contact besides calling and started fighting with my friends. to this day he still talks shit about me and tries to fight my friends. so how do you deal with this?
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