Can guys be victims of dating violence?
The answer is absolutely.
Dating violence can take many forms, including:
- Physical abuse: any intentional use of physical force meant to cause fear or injury, like hitting, shoving, biting, strangling, kicking, or using a weapon.
- Emotional abuse: non-physical behavior such as threats, insults, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, or stalking.
- Sexual abuse: any action that forces undesired sexual behavior on you by another person. This includes making you do anything you don’t want to do sexually, refusing to have safe sex, aggressively pressuring you to go further than you want to sexually, or making you feel badly about yourself sexually.
While it may seem like women are the only ones who deal with dating violence, male-victim domestic violence is easy to miss—common stereotypes make it incredibly difficult for a man to admit that his partner has abused him in any way. The fact is, women can hit, call names, and behave violently and abusively just as much as men can.
- Calls you names, insults you, or puts you down,
- Prevents you from going to work or school,
- Stops you from seeing family members or friends,
- Tries to control how you spend money, where you go, or what you wear,
- Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful,
- Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs,
- Threatens you with violence or a weapon,
- Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes, or otherwise hurts you,
- Assaults you while you're sleeping or not paying attention to make up for a difference in strength,
- Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will, and/ or
- Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it.
So while 1 in 3 women will experience dating violence in her lifetime, let’s not forget the boys…and whether male or female, victims can start by telling someone about the abuse, whether it's a friend, relative, health care provider, or other close contact. At first, you may find it hard to talk about the abuse. But you'll also likely feel relief and receive much-needed support.
Get more info and advice about dating violence on our National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month page. Then tell us in the comments what you think about dating violence. Have you experienced it? Know anyone who has?
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WHAT OTHER TEENS ARE SAYING:
Absolutely. A girl in a relationship can be just as controlling as a guy in a relationship or even physical to him. You don't hear as much about it though.
Heck yeah!!! Guys can absolutely be victims of dating violence! My friends sister throws plates at her boyfriend,,, and he just takes it!!
( What a man!)
I mean I would have done broken up with her!
guys think they rule the relationship
Thats what I hate. Most people dont think that guys cant be the one getting hurt because "guys are stronger than girls." No. Thats not the case. Guys can be hurt just like girls can, they can also be the ones that get raped. Most people only think girls are the ones who get hurt and are the only ones who can get raped. And if there are any girls or guys who are on this site and have been raped or abused [mentally or physicality] who haven't told anyone yet, tell someone, tell your best friend, or your parents, or even that shy girl in your Math class. If they say things like, "I'll kill you or myself if you break up with me," or "If you tell anyone your never see your parents ever again." And dont think that these saying are way out there, their not, actually. Tell someone.
ive been in a abusive relationship and its very hard to get out of it , because you love the person so much and its hard to let qo and they put so much thinqs in your head and you think so neqative tht you just dnt care for yourself anymore so you just qive up & thts not a good thinq . iqot out of it and it was hard buht if you want help ican help you every step of the way .. just reply to thiss ! : ) KEEP YA HEADD UPP
its so horrible that peoplke get hurt while dating..... you know how when the little boy is throwing rocks at the little girl and she goes crying home, her mother tells her that he likes her...... she then goes through life thinking that the reason she is getting hurt is because he loves her....... its really sad!!!!!!!!
i love this site!!!1
yes anyone can be abused phisicle and none phisicle
I think my bf is sexy even if he was a NERD!
My bf and I r in Tae Kwan Do and one of the requrements is sparring[fighting] we normaly have to spar with each other because we're the same hight and about the same weight is that considered abuse?
@ ME:
Sparring during Tae Kwon Do practice, which is something you have to do to practice your sport, is not dating abuse. Dating abuse is when your partner intentionally behaves in a violent way towards you, either physically, mentally, or emotionally.
nobody should be abused. Guys just need to speak up. duh!
i have been with my man for almost three years now and he had has been abused me many times..., i guess i stay cause i feel like i need him and i love him we have been though so much so i think maybe i should stay and learn how to deal with it .....it hurts so much he drinks n does drugs and for some reason i still stay .
if some one abuses you you better tell some one before it gets worse
male and female can get abruse .. . .. its not just boys dats strong is sum women out dare to .
i had a bf that abused me all the time
Men and women can be a victim of dating violence!! But if u r a victim u need to tell someone!!!!WHO CARES WHO IT IS!!!
I think guys need to be more open of they are involved in dating violence
All of the dating Violence needs to stop there's Nø reason for you to abuse someone ...!!!!
IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED TELL SOMEONE ANYBODY IT DOESNT MATTER WHOJUST MAKE SURE YOU GET HELP!!!
Abuse can happen to ANYONE MALE OR FEMALE in this cas eit is 100% possible for a woman to abuse a man in ANY way if u r a man and r being abused dont be afraid to tell someone its not ur fault and people might not understand at first but it will get better
yes tho it is more common 4 girls. it can happen to boys 2.my friend used to come to school every other day with something wrong so one day i asked a i found out her boyfriend was abusing her so i talked to him and her and now there just fine every time he gets mad he just squeezes a beanie. so now were all cool.
Why would a guy that "loved" you even wanna hit the girl? I mean when i was 8 i saw my moms head get smashed against a wall .. . My mom stood up for her kids and took self defense. I thnk if any girl has ever been abused then they needa speak up and tell .
fer a quy to suffer physical violence is very rare.
so i think its werid.:)
these boys rapeing girls is rediculos
Abuse happens to every one male and female not any one sex is different, if you have been abused it does not make you less of a person it just makes you stronger.
i wantedto have sex at age 12 but i got scared and my boyfriend beat me but i atomatically broke up with him
My mom was hit HARD and she just left with me that is the answer she taught me even once is to much.
if u need help get it now no more waiting!
anyone can be a victim
it is very wrong
Yes, Though physical abuse is more common for girls, some guys endure it to. If a guy is in a relationship with any kind of abuse he should get help. In some cases guys dont realize they are in that kind of relationship...if you witness some one in an abusive relationship you should talk to them and try to help them out..if that doesnt work you should tell someone that can do something about it because abusive relationships could get worse and eventually some one could end up getting hurt.
yes they are stornger but that means nothing girls are more likely to be hurt then a guy is.. :))
i have been a victim of dating violence. now i have a lawsuit against and go to court every 6 months
it is most common for girls to get abused than boys
yes they can
It can be verbal abuse, mentally abuse, or physical abuse. Its more common for women to be physically and mentally abused. Although guys can be too as uncommon as it may be.
its more common for girls tho
yes because a lot of girls say things they dont do things , see with guys if they abuse u its usually physical but it heals and like i said girls say things they dont do things and that can scar people mentally and it doesnt heal
sometimes violence could happen between the male or female.people always think that males start violence in a relachionship but little they know females are always bring males down.but who? knows who really starts violence in their realachionship..........
this poll reminded me of love the way you lie by eminem and rihanna :/
its ashamed that people are getting abused, girls dont be scared to speak up. If you dont than who else will. And boys yea it can happen to you too and if it does than end the relationship DUUH! Love is NOT abuse so if you so call love this person and there abusing you than GET REAL! Its not love!
Guys definitely have been abused in relationships just as girls have been;
The reason a guy may not be so easy to admit to it is because obviously they don't want to look weak. Anybody going through this problem might be too scared to admit what is going on, or even possibly they might think it's normal, depending on the person. Imagine being in a situation like that yourself, it wouldn't be easy would it?
Yes
some times you dont know how to controll your anger problems so notice when they start and talk about them.. dont let them get to far out of hand. after my son was born I started hitting my boyfriend after we talked about it, i realized i was mad he was not helping as much as i wanted him to.
i think that it is wrong
if your getting abused just end it. love and violence is not a couple
why would guys do that i just dont get and they dont winn nothing for doinq that??!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for getting this person some help! Good Job!
yes they can, because I have hit they guys I've been with, also I'm really controlling only because of my past, but I have also been mentally downing him as well its not only just is it psychical abuse but there was mental abuse, I believe I should seek some help with my anger issues, I get really angry I don't remember anything I say or do.
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