Does it matter what your friends think about your girlfriend/boyfriend?

 
Does it matter what your friends think about your girlfriend/boyfriend?
No—as long as I like them, that's all that matters.
68%
Yes—friends often see the things that I might miss when I'm in the haze of a serious crush.
32%

 

What to talk about it on a first date, how do to wear your hair for yearbook pictures, to pierce or not to pierce, which dress to wear to prom—these are all things we want our friends advice on…and we take that advice seriously.  But what about when it comes to something as personal as choosing who to date?  Are we right to consult our friends or are they likely to be over protective? 

Assuming we have good friends, they generally want the best for us.  Sometimes they see the warning signs, witness the quick tempers, or hear the snide comments that we’re quick to ignore in the early stages of a relationship.  Friends can also be quick to judge bf/gf’s in an effort to protect us or because they’re jealous.  Either way, it’s usually a good idea to hear them out before running to the tattoo shop to have your crush’s name stamped on your arm.

Do you consult your friends before jumping into a relationship?  Is there advice valuable to you?  Let us know in the comments.  

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ON MAY 13, 2012 AT 4:23 PM, BELLA</3 SAID:

Really i think it kinda matters its happend to me my friends knew alot about the guy and i thought they where wrong so i didnt belive them then next thing i knew he was being an ahole. and i cried and tried...... but anyways they helped me threw all my other relationship. for me they help me threw my relationships when i need it. but if do something they didnt need to get in then they're steping over the line. But thats my perspective. everyone has their reasonses.

ON MAY 11, 2012 AT 9:50 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

NONE of my friends likes my bf they say he teats me bad but i dont see it. in some ways i think what your friends thinks about him/her but in others i dont

ON MAY 9, 2012 AT 8:18 PM, WESTVIEWDEEP!:D SAID:

No I don't think they matter.... but, if they think he's cheating, I'll check it out.

ON MAY 7, 2012 AT 3:12 PM, DESTINY CHARLESTON SAID:

no i think that ur gf/bf should be happy with the choices u make.

ON MAY 4, 2012 AT 11:44 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

no it doesnt matter. if i like him im going to date him and they can just get over it. im talking to someone one right now and one of my best friends doesnt think he is good for me.

ON MAY 1, 2012 AT 7:55 PM, TAELOR NICHOLE SAID:

Your relationship shouldnt depend on what you friends think. This past year, i have had alot of ups and downs in my relationship because of what my friends and what my boyfriends, friends have said. It is nice to have your friends there when you need emotional support but other than that, your relationship really shouldnt be any of their business, im saying this from experience and learning the hard way.My boyfriend has had somewhat of a rough past but i dont hold him accountable for what he has done or what has happened to him and neither should my friends. Hence the reason, i dropped my friends, considering not only were they holding him back for things that have happened in the past, but they have also tried to run my relationship and tell me what i should and should not do.... don't listen to what other people say, just go with your instinct and what you feel is right.

ON MAY 1, 2012 AT 11:56 AM, GR33NRECORD SAID:

i agree with the first girl. And you probably will not be with your friends as long as you will be with your bf or gf, your friend will move on, go thir own ways, yet you will still be wih your lover :D (if you are in a wonderful good relatoinship!) :)

ON APRIL 28, 2012 AT 11:19 AM, -ME(: SAID:

No it does not ! You are loving your crush , not your friend . Your friend should just accept that you like him and thats it . She shouldn't be hating because you got a sexy boyfriend and she doesn't :D

ON APRIL 27, 2012 AT 2:43 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Honestly how ifeel, is that NO it doesnt matter what your friends think about yuhr bf or gf. me persoanly, my cousin doesnt like the guy i am dating, but idont kare. idid at first, but then ithough about it. shes not the one tht is in my shoes, nor in my relationship. it shudnt matter wat other ppl have to say b/c they arent the ones dating the person. if you love the person you are with, then yuhr going to stay with them no matter wat. my sis aslo didnt like my bf either, but once she saw tht ididnt kare about wat she thought, she grew to like him. && she tells me now tht if im happy, then shes happy for me. nobody should hate on yuhr relationship as long as yuhr happy. && want to be with the one yuh love && care for.

ON APRIL 13, 2012 AT 10:58 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I THINK THAT FRIENDS SHOULD JUST ACCEPT THE RELATIONSHIP AND GET TO KNOW YOUR GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND BETTER BEFORE JUDGING IN A WRONG SORT OF WAY

ON APRIL 8, 2012 AT 10:38 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I think that your friends should accept them if you really like them. They can tell you how they feel but they should be concerned about you being happy too!

ON APRIL 8, 2012 AT 8:40 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I don't think it matters what your friends think. If you like him then that's all that matters. If something goes wrong in the realationship then you learn from the experiance. Who cares what they think.

ON APRIL 2, 2012 AT 6:26 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Yes and no. If your friends don't like him just because he might be nerdy or uncool that's no reason to listen to them. but if they see something you miss, like flirting with other people, bad attitudes or treating you badly, then yes definately people to listen to

ON MARCH 30, 2012 AT 4:43 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

it doesn't matter because they aren't the one that are dating him. all that matters is if you like him, have a good time with him, and if you treats you right

ON MARCH 29, 2012 AT 9:11 AM, NESHIA MASHAE SAID:

No i don't think it should matter what your friends say about your boyfriend/girlfriend. If you can see yourself spening the rest of your life with that person and being happy, then it shouldn't matter what others say. Looks aren't everything, what matters is on the inside <3

ON MARCH 27, 2012 AT 5:44 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

no it doesnt matter .

ON MARCH 27, 2012 AT 1:19 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

it dosent really matter to me what my friends think...

ON MARCH 26, 2012 AT 8:52 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

no because if you have a good friend then they will want what makes you happy

ON MARCH 24, 2012 AT 11:56 PM, MILLAYA BRAY SAID:

i really don't know because i'm in this situation right now...i like this boy derrick,but he's one of the nerdy pplz,but i like nerdy boys and he's so cute,but everybody else doesn't see it this way...i really need advice from ppl who know what i'm going through...plz help!!!

ON MARCH 24, 2012 AT 7:23 PM, CHELSEA NORTON SAID:

Yes And Not.Yes It Does Matter What Your Friends Think of Your Boyfriend Or GirlFriend For One Beceause Your Friends Will Always Be There For You no matter what and bfs/gfs sometimes come and go. plus your friends may see something that you may not see in your partner. And on the other hand no it doesnt matter if your friends dont like him but you really and you too feel right for eachother then yea stay with that person. just remmber dont abandon your friends for the person your dateing.

ON MARCH 23, 2012 AT 3:25 PM, KASSEY SAID:

i dont think it matters as long as your BOTH happy

ON MARCH 22, 2012 AT 2:32 PM, GUS SAID:

I think that they are both important......just keep the two weighed out evenly because there may be times when a friend might not be trusted and then there are times that a friend may have possibly seen something that you weren't around to see. When you feel that your relationship is based on what you think your friends think, stop and think about what is really going on and balance what you think and what your friends think because it's 50/50 on what you and somebody else might think about somebody.

ON MARCH 21, 2012 AT 3:47 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

They both matter.........

ON MARCH 19, 2012 AT 9:50 PM, OLIVIA SAID:

I personally think that it shouldn't matter what your friends think about your boyfriend or girlfriend. Although your friends are a big part of you and you care about their opinion, if you love them then it shouldn't matter.

ON MARCH 19, 2012 AT 4:26 PM, EMOCHIC99=)<3! SAID:

i think teens should date and find some with there personality. like emo with emo, goth with goth, or girly gurl with preppy boy. as long theres no going out and ''doing it'' as if you u know what i mean........... P.S. dont be stupid and get yourself pregnent !.!.!.!.!.!.!.

ON MARCH 19, 2012 AT 12:58 PM, ISAAC SAID:

Both matter because sometimes friends dont like our boyfriends/girlfriends but then again our friends catch something that we didnt see, for instance our friends are more likely to see bf/gf doing something behind our backs. Then there are the other friends that are just tring to break up people just because they simply dont like. There are time when it does matter what your friends think.

ON MARCH 19, 2012 AT 12:09 PM, RE4 LOVER!!! SAID:

i think looks kinda matter. aspecialy if they have EMO hair thats hot

ON MARCH 19, 2012 AT 12:09 PM, <3 BUBBLES3>:) SAID:

come on really you seriously really care wat your friends think.....really come on grow up already.do looks realy matter really you could be suprised some of the mosy uglyiest peole in the world could be the most kindest prson ever

p.s if you think looks mater grow up 4 real!!!
love you all c ya;)

ON MARCH 19, 2012 AT 12:07 PM, AQUA17 SAID:

it doesnt matter if your boyfirend is ugly or REALLY MEGA HOT!!! it just matters if he loves you or not. i have spoken

ON MARCH 19, 2012 AT 11:10 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

no it is not true it is what u think not your friends

ON MARCH 18, 2012 AT 3:41 PM, NICKCANTRELL SAID:

no i dont think it matters but it matters what my boyfriend thinks of my friends

ON MARCH 18, 2012 AT 3:35 PM, ASHLEY LEIGHANN SAID:

I think it matters a lot more than most people think it does. Friends are there to tell you if they think something is wrong. If they know the person your dating better than you do then they most likely know what they are going to do and they are going to want to try and keep you from the pain from a breakup/cheating. If you dont listen to your friends you may end up getting hurt & loose a great friend. You may think your friends are just saying things because they like the guy/girl but then your going to get mad at them then its going to turn out they were just looking out for you. Sometimes by the time you realize that it may be to late.! So always listen to your friends because in the end they are going to be there for you.!!<3

ON MARCH 16, 2012 AT 2:44 PM, PAIGE ELIZABETH SAID:

It matters! You're friends are your friends for a reason! Don't be stupid and let your girlfriend/boyfriend inter fear with what really matters. If they say they don't like them, then there's probably a good reason. I had a boyfriend and none of my friends liked him because he had a bad reputation with girls. And then 3 weeks later, he cheated on me. They were watching out for me but I was blind to see it. Trust your friends. God put them there to help guide you. Don't let some guy/girl who you're dating lead you away from your friends!

ON MARCH 14, 2012 AT 3:34 PM, SEXYYGURLL:) SAID:

i do NOT care what my friends think of me or my boyfriend. its my life not theres!! and if they were real friends they would understand that! and i think that a boy should have respect for you and not want you for sex or anything else. and me on the other hand does not care what my friends,parents, or siblings think about me or my boyfriend cause he loves me and treats me right and thats all that matters! i love him with all my heart and no one and i mean NO ONE is going to EVER get in our way!:)

ON MARCH 14, 2012 AT 11:33 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

who cares wat ur friends say or think about him.

ON MARCH 13, 2012 AT 2:14 PM, MOOSE SAID:

No, it doesn't matter. If you are happy with them? Stay with them. It doesn't matter what your friends think or say. But if they think something is wrong and they say you should dump them, then listen to them. But if they make you happy, then don't listen to what your friends say.

ON MARCH 11, 2012 AT 12:09 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

when I am in a relationship,
I'm with that person for me..because I like them,if my friends or others i know besides my family which know best about me judge them before they even know them..its wrong,
in my opinion.

ON MARCH 11, 2012 AT 11:54 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

go for it forget ur friends because they could be using u to get to him you never know who ur true friends are until they turn their back on you and so i say your friends' opinion shouldn't matter SOMETIMES because u are the one dating the guy

ON MARCH 10, 2012 AT 3:46 PM, LAYY SAID:

yup. friends can usually see things that you cant. and its not them being jealous or what not but theyre just looking out for you. and more than half the time theyre right.

ON MARCH 9, 2012 AT 2:10 PM, LETTY FELIX SAID:

idk

ON MARCH 8, 2012 AT 3:31 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

i honestly Don't care what they think because it's my boyfriend not there's and I date guys that i like and that treat me right! I Don't care what they think!

ON MARCH 8, 2012 AT 1:25 PM, ANIME DORK SAID:

you should listen to your friends, and if there are serious reasons why they don't like them consider it. But it is your choice in the end not your friends

ON MARCH 7, 2012 AT 9:28 PM, ANDREABS SAID:

i think yes well for me of course it matter what my friends thinks about my boy idk why but maybe coulde be that we live in a very racist society cuz we are likely to see pretty girls with handsome boys or the most popular with the most beautiful or handsome in the school and thats bad cuz thats one reason why the teens get nervous about what they friends think about they boys or girls or at least for me no!

ON FEBRUARY 27, 2012 AT 4:20 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

you no i think teens, if they anna have sex then who can stop them becouse its bound to happen one day and there aint going tot be eny one to stop them and then if you try to stop them then thay will go out and have sex mor behind a parents back trust me i no im a teen so i no what a teen is thinking about sex and every thing els!!!

ON FEBRUARY 26, 2012 AT 10:38 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Think about it. If you're bestfriend was with someone that you honestly thought was not good for them, you'd want them to listen to your advice about it, and consider your opinion. You should listen to what your friends have to say.

ON FEBRUARY 23, 2012 AT 1:24 PM, SELENA SAID:

i really do not actually care what people think or say for whom i am with so no it dont matter what people think to me being with someone i love

ON FEBRUARY 22, 2012 AT 2:42 PM, XXITZTHECHEERLEADERXX12 SAID:

no way ..... because first of all you friends dont need to know about ur realionships its your bussiness not theres =))

ON FEBRUARY 21, 2012 AT 12:27 PM, WIZARD11 SAID:

You shouldn't try to please your friends. If someone makes you happy, then they make you happy. If your friends don't like your boyfriend/girlfriend, then you should ask for their opinion and take what they say into consideration and not blow it off. But it is better to talk it out between the boy/girl and your friends.

ON FEBRUARY 20, 2012 AT 3:05 PM, CLAUDIA SAID:

TO ME IT DOES NOT AT ALL MATER WHAT MY FRIENDS SAY ABOUT MY BOY FRIEND BECAUSE MAYBE THEIR JUST JELOSE BECAUSE THEY DONT HAVE A BOYFRIEND THAT LOVES THEM LIKE YOURS LOVES YOU ALOT ALSO MAYBE BECAUSE THEY SEE HOW MUCH YOUR BOYFRIEND LOVES YOU

ON FEBRUARY 19, 2012 AT 11:14 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Yes. If none of your friends like him, thats a sign...
Trust me I would know >.>

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